Raising kids isn't easy, and despite the many blessings they can offer you, there have probably been
times when they have caused friction within your married relationship.
Busyness can take over quality 1:1 time with your partner, as with the never-ending cycle of school runs,
after-school clubs, swimming lessons, and the various parenting demands that you regularly encounter,
you might not have a lot of time to spend together.
Weekends will probably be spent trying to entertain your children instead of finding ways to entertain
yourself and your partner.
And you might experience arguments when there is disagreement on how best to raise the kids, or on
other matters that pertain to family life.
Such is life, you might assume, but you need to beware. Many marriages run cold when little is done to
renew the flames of passion and love within the relationship, and this can sometimes lead to separation
and divorce.
Don't let this happen to you.
It is possible to keep your marriage strong, despite having kids, so you shouldn't have to suffer the
consequences of marital stress and the prospect of divorce mediation.
Focus on these two things within your relationship.
#1: Allow time for each other
Yes, your children will take up a lot of your time, but they don't have to an ever-present part of your
schedule. Make time for date nights with your partner. Send the children to their grandparents for the
occasional weekend. And when your children are in bed, cuddle up close with your partner and enjoy
quality time together.
You should also make an effort to be less busy within those aspects of your schedule that don't pertain
to family life. So, place the needs of your relationship over time spent with friends. Don't bring your work
home with you of an evening on a regular basis. And while you do need to have your own hobbies, don't
focus on them at the expense of your marriage.
By taking steps to spend more time together, you will have the opportunity to talk to each other, have fun
together, and even flirt, kiss, and cuddle with one another. Love will surely blossom.
#2: Forgive each other
There will be times when one or both of you say things that are later regretted. It could be something
said in the heat of the moment, or it could be something that is unleashed after holding pent-up
resentments. In some cases, the subject of your children could be the cause of the hurtful words that are
said, although there are bound to be a hundred other things within your lives that could cause anger and
frustration.
Words will be said, and doors will be slammed, and this can be expected in any relationship. However,
don't let disagreements fester. As soon as it is appropriate, talk to one another, figure out what went
wrong together, and make every effort to forgive each other. It's easier said than done, we know, but for
the benefit of your marriage, every effort must be made.
There is some excellent advice here on forgiveness in relationships, so have a read and remember the
points made the next time you and your partner come to blows.
Married life can be tough, and so can parenting children. However, one shouldn't come at the expense
of the other, so consider our advice. And if you have any other tips for our readers, perhaps based on
your personal experiences, be sure to share your suggestions with us.
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