Wednesday, December 20, 2023

Surviving the Holidays as a Parentless Parent: Tips for Finding Comfort

Hey, lovely souls! 🌟 Let's get real about the holidays, shall we? While the world is busy wrapping gifts and decking the halls, some of us are wrestling with a different kind of jingle – the one that comes with the territory of being a parentless parent. It's not all cocoa and cozy vibes, but fear not! I've got some tips to help you find comfort and sail through this season with your sanity intact.

1. Roll with the Feels:

First things first – it's totally legit not to be the holiday cheer captain 24/7. If the nostalgia hits hard, embrace it. Cry, laugh, or do a bit of both. Your feelings are your feelings, no judgment here. You definitely don't have to be perfect all the time! 

2. Create Your Own Cheer:

Who says traditions are set in stone? Craft your own rituals that bring warmth to your heart. Maybe it's a solo dance party to your favorite tunes, a movie marathon in cozy PJs, or even an impromptu karaoke session with the cat. Make it yours. There literally are no rules. At our house, we do pizza and movie nights with a little bourbon drinking after the kids go to bed. Is it traditional? No, but it's our own tradition, and I love that! 

3. Lean on Your Crew:

Holidays are meant for connections. Reach out to your tribe – friends, family, or even that neighbor who bakes killer cookies. Don't hesitate to share your thoughts; you might be surprised how many can relate or offer a virtual shoulder squeeze. You might actually be surprised to see how many people are not fans of the holiday season for the same reasons as you! 

4. Make Time for You:

Parentless or not, the holiday hustle can be draining. Sneak in moments of self-care like it's a secret mission. Whether it's a bubble bath, a good book, or just zoning out with your favorite podcast, remember: you-time is non-negotiable. This self care time really helps me to recharge and put things into perspective so I feel like I can better handle myself during the crazy season. 

5. Honoring Memories:

Take a beat to reminisce. Share stories about your loved ones, look through old photo albums, or maybe even whip up a dish that screams nostalgia. It's a beautiful way to keep their memory alive in your holiday celebrations. My kids love to hear stories from my childhood now that they are teens, and I feel like it's a way to help them to know who their grandparents were as people, even though they never got to meet. 

6. Be a Holiday Rebel:

Permission to rebel granted! If the standard holiday playbook doesn't resonate with you, toss it out the window. Create a holiday playlist with your favorite rock anthems, ditch the traditional feast for a foodie adventure, or declare a day of Netflix and chill – holiday edition. You get to be the boss of your own holiday. For me, as a mom raising kids without my own parents, that has actually been pretty healing - the fact that I can create my own traditions (however crazy they may be!) for my own family. 

7. Reach Out for Support:

Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Seek support from groups, friends, or even professionals. Online communities can be a game-changer, offering understanding and a sprinkle of virtual cheer.

Closing Thoughts:

So, my brave friend, you've got this holiday thing on lock. Be gentle with yourself, savor the small joys, and know that finding comfort is your superpower. Drop a comment below with your go-to holiday comfort tips or just to share a virtual high-five. Wishing you all the cozy vibes and a sprinkle of holiday magic! 🌈✨

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